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Being polite in Chinese: 请, 吧 and softening

Chinese softens requests with particles and set phrases rather than with conditional verb forms.

请 + verb — polite requestsHSK 1

How do you say please in Chinese?

请 before a verb makes a request more polite, like "please" in English: 请说 = please speak/go ahead.

没关系,请说。 — It's okay, please go ahead and speak.

没关系 — replying to an apologyHSK 1

What do you say when someone apologises in Chinese?

没关系 means "it doesn't matter" or "it's okay," the common reply when someone apologizes.

没关系,没关系。 — It's okay, it's okay.

一起 + verb — doing something togetherHSK 1

一起 goes before a verb to show two or more people do the action together.

我们一起回家。 — We go home together.

多 + verbHSK 1

How do you tell someone to do more of something in Chinese?

多 before a verb means 'do more of it'.

请多喝水,多睡觉。

不客气 — replying to thanksHSK 1

What do you say when someone thanks you in Chinese?

When someone thanks you, the standard reply is 不客气, meaning "you're welcome" or "no need to be polite."

不客气,我们是朋友。 — You're welcome, we're friends.

没事(回应关心:answering "你怎么了")HSK 2

没事 answers a worried question like 你怎么了, telling someone nothing serious is wrong.

你怎么了?没事,休息一下就好了。— What's wrong? Nothing, I'll be fine after resting a bit.

别 + verb — don't do itHSK 2

别 makes a soft negative command, gentler than 不要. It appears all over spoken Chinese.

别说了。 — Stop talking / don't say any more.

对 + someone + 说 — to say to someoneHSK 2

对 introduces the person being spoken to before 说.

家人都对我说:“生日快乐!” — My family all said to me, "Happy birthday!"

吧(softening a suggestion)HSK 2

吧 at the end of a sentence turns a statement into a suggestion, softer than a command.

好,走吧。— OK, let's go.

别…了 — stop doing thatHSK 2

别 + verb + 了 asks somebody to STOP something they are already doing: 别玩手机了, 别说了. Without 了 it is a plain 'don't do it'.

别玩手机了,快吃吧。 — Put the phone down and eat.

不妨 + verbHSK 6

'Might as well; there is no harm in doing…' — a gentle suggestion that the action costs little and may help. 例:如果拿不定主意,不妨先问问专业人士。

我们不妨偶尔停下来,看看事情本来想往哪个方向生长。 — We might as well stop now and then and see which way things wanted to grow.

How to use this page

These 11 patterns all do the same job in Chinese, so they are worth seeing side by side — the differences between them are easier to feel when they are next to each other than when they are spread across six HSK levels. They range from HSK 1–6.

Grammar sticks through reading, not through lists. Each entry links to the reading it was taken from. Skim the page, then go read one of them and come back when a sentence stops making sense.

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